The Patterns of Love don’t work like they used to
These days you smash out, and never again with the same dude
Men are congratulated for being womanizers
Women are applauded for being whores
Being comfortable with your sexuality
Yet afraid you’ll contract a disease
You learn as a child you’re born with a curse. virginity
Dragging it around, afraid that people will see
"Practice safe sex with condoms, or birth control,
Just don’t get pregnant before you’re 25 years old.”
I live in a nation of contradiction and fallacy
Lies, indecency, deception, that’s all I see
Even the honest ones are rotten.
The virtues that were once so familiar are forgotten.
Tony: Hello, this is my interview of Daniel Morales for the ZBT Gamma Beta CSUN page. This is to further understand what fraternal bonds mean, and what being in a fraternity means to CSUN students like Daniel Morales. Hello Daniel!
Daniel: Hi! Nice to be here.
Tony: You’re about to be in your third year at CSUN and, how has your journey been so far? Outside of Greek Life.
Daniel: A lot of fun actually. I spend a lot of time doing homework, in general, but I choose a lot of classes I’m interested in and those classes just drive me to do better, academic-wise. And I just get it done.
Tony: That explains a lot! To CSUN Students with less than satisfactory grades, what would you tell them to improve their GPA’s?
Daniel: I say it’s all about how your schedule works, because I do have a social life despite having great grades. Let’s say I have a three page paper to write. I can get a three page paper done, and if I don’t I guess I can’t go to hang out. But I’ll get it done because I want to hang out that badly. And if you have your priorities straight, you’ll get it done, so you don’t have to just sit at home working on your paper while you could be doing something fun.
Tony: Right, sounds simple enough, but some people just don’t implement this sort of thinking.
Daniel: Oh definitely.
Tony: But it shows, you have a 3.8 GPA?
Daniel: It’s actually gone down a bit, I have a 3.7 GPA.
Tony: People out there reading this, you should really listen to the wise words of Daniel Morales. He has a 3.7 GPA, in college, while having a substantial social life, and being in a fraternity.
Tony: Come Spring of 2012, you actually rush a fraternity, now tell me some of your reasoning behind why you came?
Daniel: It was actually something I was never really thinking about. I thought about it briefly but it was a new learning experience. One of the brothers asked me if I wanted to come, and I came by and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Tony: Okay, so fast forward to today. What have you gained from being in a fraternity?
Daniel: I’ve gained a healthy respect for myself, for ideas behind politics and business, how to talk to people. How to talk to people without being awkward. How to speak business. A lot of social skills. Knowing how to talk, and what words to say. Small stuff, but it made all the difference to my confidence.
Tony: Now I, being in your class as a New Brother in Spring of 2012, I remember you were not the most sociable guy when we were first initiated. But you definitely built upon that a lot, and you’re a pretty cool guy now.
Tony: What does being in a fraternity mean, and what do fraternal bonds mean to you?
Daniel: Being in a fraternity to me is being where you know you should be at the time. It’s knowing that this is a place that everyone is coming together to learn on their own accord. Fraternal bonds are some of the dearest to me, because these are people who come from all different walks of life who I’ve learned about, learned from, and they’re people I wouldn’t trade for anything, because they have improved my experience as a human being a lot.
Tony: Our friends out there who share no affiliation with Greek Life, they say that we pay for our friends. Would you say that’s correct? Or wrong? And if it’s wrong, what is wrong about it?
Daniel: It’s not so much paying for your friends, because when you’re hanging out with your friends you still end up paying for food, and gas. It’s a little more expensive because we have a place to live, and a lot of things are provided to us to enhance our experience.
Tony: Right and there’s some things about being in a fraternity that you can’t pay for. Like the bond and the familiarity I share with Daniel. That kind of stuff, money cannot buy.
Tony: Okay so during the time that I’ve been here, I’ve gone through some rough times. Life is not always good. We have our ups and downs. Would you say being in this fraternity has helped you go through the trials and tribulations of life?
Daniel: Definitely. When I was initiated, I was on a down, a major down. I didn’t expect much solace from anyone, but when I joined, everyone in the house helped me overcome it. And as much as I’m prone to falling, I see other brothers falling to hard times, and I feel like I want to return the favor.
Tony: So in that sense you’ve been through a lot of personal and emotional growth.
Daniel: Most definitely.
Tony: Okay so let’s bring it back to when we were newly initiated brothers of ZBT. We’ll do this thing where I describe what you were like, and you’ll describe what I was like, and I’ll describe what you’re like now, and you’ll do the same for me.
Tony: Okay so, Daniel Morales. When he was just initiated, in the Spring of 2012. He was very shy, very awkward, and very nerdy. A band geek. Funny guy but again, awkward. If there was one word I could use to describe Daniel is awkward. Now what was I like when I was just initiated?
Daniel: Shy. Quiet. Very, very quiet.
Tony: Damn really?! No way! xD
Daniel: You had one word answers for everything. One word. If I asked how was your day, you would answer, “Meh.” It took me three weeks to get a full length conversation out of you, and it was the best day ever. That’s how I felt about you.
Tony: Damn really? I feel like I talk too much now.
Daniel: Now you’re loud, and you’ve definitely improved your work ethic. You have a better understanding of who you are, and you definitely are more opinionated than you were then. And you definitely speak your mind more.
Tony: Daniel now, is very sociable, awesome guy to be around. Very fun. If you’re ever having a bad day, he’ll make it better. Super fun guy. Funny, the most like snarky sense of humor but it’s funny. I personally find him one of the funniest guys in ZBT. Honest to god. Now he’s going to the University of Massachusetts, very intelligent, one of the hardest working guys, if not, the hardest working guy in this house. There is not a brother I can think of that works harder than Daniel, in my opinion. Overall, the personal growth is astonishing to me. The person you were then, and the person you are now is just night and day.
Tony: Last Question. Let’s say I’m rushing a fraternity, why should I join ZBT?
Daniel: Our house is great because there are so many different types of people that you’ll meet, that you never knew you would have gotten along with. And you’ll learn from so many different types of people. And it definitely helps in your personal growth. There’s just so much to do and when you’re out of college and you need a job, you have so many more options to choose from, and a wider variety of connections. Our house is a great hub of learning, and leaders. We cultivate great leaders. Some of the best and wisest people I know come from this house. I could not have seen myself joining any other house because of that.
The fraternal experience is most always tied to American society’s idea of a “frat boy.” Half drunk, failing school, and partying every chance he gets. I think the normal American person thinks of a fraternity as an organization that you join so you can “pay to make friends.”
Say what you will, but from what I have experienced, being a part of a fraternity is being part of an organization where you have 50 or 60 colleagues who joined for one reason. To become the leaders of tomorrow.
It’s great to be a ZBT
After being home and away from people for a while, you get used to being alone. And solitary confinement is almost nothing. You believe that all you need to be happy is yourself. And while this is largely true where independence is a marketable trait, having company is never so bad.
I guess I’m saying, that people are social creatures. And while spending time alone brings peace & quiet, spending time with other people is so much more stimulating
After all is said and done
And you wake up and don’t remember much
You think upon the night
And you ask, “Did I have a great time?”
I ask, “Was it worth shortening the span of my life?”
Probably not. But you know what?